Hello All,
Here is my situation: You have your goals set, you are working hard toward them and you push each time a little bit more to achieve something great. Every year you can look back and see how far you are and how fast you are moving.
I had a lot of dreams and all of them came true in the last 5 years. I wanted to get a diploma with honors, wanted to get married successfully, wanted to find a job, make a lot of money, and get accepted in to the MBA program. I did it all.
So, now it is a time to think about new goals, and while there is nothing there it feels kind of empty.
I want you to share about your life experiences. I believe it would be helpful for me to know how you got back on track after you achieved your long-term goals. I think I need advice from someone with life experience. How do you find that "something" that would move you forward?How do you do it?
Thank you,
Katya
P.S. All of you know that I don’t believe in God. So, I would appreciate if you would not include religious believes in you comments.
3 comments:
I know that each person is individual, and their personality will affect how they set and meet goals. One thing I learned years ago is that you must have multiple levels of goals. Some are very long term, some just long term, and others short term.
Very long term can be 10-25 years down the road. I've noticed that many times as you start making and reaching short term goals, they will affect the very long term goals, and they in turn will need to be adjusted or even changed. For example. When I was in college, I wanted to major in Physics. But due to funding, I had to change to being an elementary teacher. Then I got married. Val and I quickly realized that we couldn't both afford to go to school.
After careful consideration, we decided to put Val through school first, and then when he graduated, I would go back and finish school. My long term goal was to be a career teacher. I fully believed that I would have a career, because I had always been told that it was unlikely I would ever have children. I wanted to be a stay at home mother raise and my children, but since I probably wouldn't have any, I was career bound. But things changed when I eventually got pregnant. My long term career goal was now pushed out into the future. I changed careers and became a stay at home mom.
My very long term was completly changed, but many times they only need minor adjustments.
If you set goals for 1,3,5,10, and 25 years down the road, it gives you things to continually work towards. Then as you meet goals, and the ones you have set move up, you can tack news ones in the slot they fit into.
I hope this makes sense. Goal setting is so important, and I believe it should be a life long endevor.
Love Mom E.
Hey Katya,
First of all I would like to tell you how proud I am of you for accomplishing the goals that you have so far. You have done more than some people do in their whole lifetime! Your dedication and drive are truly admirable.
I know it can be hard to know what to do next after major goals have been met. My suggestion would be for you to ask yourself, “What truly makes me happy?"
Everyone's idea of what happiness is is different. So you need to find out what is right for you. For me it wasn't something that I knew right away. The things (goals) that I thought would bring me the most happiness, once accomplished, ended up not bringing me the happiness I had envisioned. I was left feeling like, "Now what?" But once I found what truly made me happy, it was amazing how the accomplished goals gave me a feeling of joy and a feeling of completeness.
It would be easy to say to you," Hey if you do exactly what I did, you will be happy and fulfilled." But it doesn't work that way. Unfortunately life is a growing experience and there isn't one easy answer. Everyone's journey is unique and special and only meant for them. You just have to search yourself and find what works the best for you.
For some it is a life dedicated to their career, for others it is family, for others it is humanitarian causes, the list can go on and on.
I hope this helps. I wish you the best in whatever you decided to do next in life.
Love,
Valerie
Katya, you should be so proud of yourself! Not many people can say they have achieved so much of what they wanted in 5 years time. It seems your life is heading in the direction you want it to, which is wonderful! I can understand your feelings of emptiness, I've felt that before in my life. But, I'll be honest in saying that you ask a lot for me not to include God because that "something" that moves me forward has a lot to do with Him. However, I will honor your wishes and try...
I like what Valerie said about finding what brings you happiness. I like to picture myself as an old woman and imagine what feelings I might have about the life I've lived. Then I try to set goals which will make me the person I envision. Some of these goals are very concrete... such as graduating, marriage, jobs. But some are more abstract... like being more thoughtful, giving of my time to a worthy cause, being a better human being. All of these help me in my continuing quest to find out who I really am and what brings me happiness.
I really enjoy your blogs and I love talking to you whenever we get the chance! I wish you luck and happiness!
Love, April
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